What to expect in individual therapy.

 

You are the expert on your own life.  You know what has worked for you in the past and what hasn't.  I don’t hand out answers – most likely other people are already doing that and it hasn’t helped.  I help you clear away the pain, confusion, doubt, and noise of every day life so you can locate answers within yourself. 

 

Humans have a remarkable self-healing capacity that becomes clogged when they do not have enough support.  We will provide that support with acceptance and curiosity.  We will help you find clarity. 

 

Having difficulties does not make you a failure, it makes you human.  People usually come to therapy when they feel stuck, or all alone (even if there are people around), or bewildered about what to do.   They are thinking “No matter what I do, nothing changes” or “I don’t know where to start” or “I know something is wrong, I just don’t know what it is.”  You may be in pain: sad or angry or anxious.  You may be numb and hollow instead.

 

Seeking help is an act of hope and a sign of strength.

 

Do you feel like you are the only one?  We have seen many people solve problems that may be just like yours and can help you discover the right solution for you. You may ask, "What is wrong with me?  Why don’t I just get on with things?"  Often it helps to discover that your emotions and reactions in your life are perfectly understandable reactions to events and situations – that other people have similar reactions but don’t talk about it either. 

 

In the company of a safe an accepting other, you come to find out that you are not the only one having these problems.  You find out that you have strengths you didn't recognize.  You learn that the ways you have been solving problems came from old patterns and that you can do things differently now.